Hey, friends –

When I ran the “Keep Calm + Eat PHFF” group in December last year, this was my main takeaway –

Women are stressed.

And I have what may be a controversial take on the reason why.

I’m going to get into masculine and feminine energetics here because this is becoming a really popular topic on social media. If it hasn’t crossed into your world yet, and you’re thinking “wtf is she even talking about”, keep reading anyway because I’m going to get into some juicy tips to help you tame your stress whether you’re familiar with this concept or not.

We see a lot on social media these days about women who are “too in their masculine energy” and there are thousands of coaches out there teaching women “how to be more feminine” to “get what they want” in their relationships and career.

Stop working so hard! Relax! Just “be”! Bake some sourdough! Be soft!

(there is almost nothing that sounds more stressful to me than taking care of a sourdough starter btw)

And, yes, ladies – it would serve you very well to relax, soften, ask for help, and then learn to receive it vs running yourself into the ground and turning down help because “you can do it yourself.”

But you’re not burning yourself out with your never-ending to-do list because you’re “too masculine” and you “just need to relax.” Quite the opposite.

Healthy masculine energy is boundaried and disciplined, and ladies – many of us struggle with boundaries and discipline.

My answer for less stress is simple – implement structure into your life and take action. When you do this, you will actually have the space to relax, receive, and tap into that juicy, sexy feminine side that has been stuffed down under piles of to-do lists and an absurd carpool schedule.

Here’s my process – I use two tools:

1. My Review/Preview Process (found in my new workbook)
2. A great weekly/monthly planner (I use this one)

WEEKLY

Every Saturday, I review my week.

• How was my nutrition? Did I eat enough protein? How often did I eat out?
• Did I hit all my workouts and walks?
• How was sleep?
• Stress? Did I use my tools?
• Did I complete all my high-priority projects?
• How about parenting? Did I spend as much time with T as I wanted to? Did I have any meltdowns? Do I have any concerns here?

Here’s an example from 2 weeks ago:

1. My daughter had a particularly rough week, and I know this is always the case when I’m too heads down in my work and distracted. I made a note as I previewed the upcoming week to have more intentional, quality time with her.
2. My sleep sucked because I wasn’t disciplined enough to turn my phone off at 9. I set an alarm to remind me to shut down work by 7, put my blue light blockers on, and put my phone on the charger in another room at 9.
3. I spent a lot of money on eating out, so I ordered meal delivery and prepped a couple of proteins.

Preorder my workbook, and I’ll send you a PDF copy of the workbook where you’ll find 52 weeks of Review/Preview. Set it on your nightstand or counter so it’s staring right at you every single week. This practice can – and will – change your life if you actually do it every week.

DAILY

• Write down your Big 3. What are the 3 things you NEED to do today to move the needle in your life?
• Write down everything else you’d like to get done.
• SCHEDULE 2-3 2-hour blocks of focus time. Focus time = NO PHONE OR DISTRACTIONS.
• Schedule “breaks” in between. This is where you can do whatever you want. Knock out stuff on the “less important” to-do list. Answer emails. Go for a power walk. Meditate. Whatever.
• Stick to this as much as possible. If you truly only have 2 hours to do what you’d consider to be a 3-hour task…I promise you, you will get it down in 2 hours.

I like to do my daily schedule the night before.

This framework maybe won’t look the same if you’re a SAHM or you work in corporate, but you can adapt it. The point is –

Scheduling your day like this creates BOUNDARIES, DISCIPLINE, and STRUCTURE. Being adverse to structure is not a personality trait – it is a learned behavior and you can learn to add structure. I don’t want to hear that you’re ADHD and can’t have structure – I am diagnosed ADHD and I can tell you that you need it.

The “breaks” create space to relax or do simple, enjoyable things on your list. You can take a damn salt bath in the middle of your day if that’s what you really want to do. This is the key to creating space in your to-do list.

This was a highly requested topic – I hope it was helpful!

Grab that workbook, friends. It’s going to be a game-changer for you in 2025.

xxMegan

PS – if you do grab the workbook today, you’ll be invited to our next call on Wednesday this week where I’m going to REALLY dive into the power of micro-habits. I’ll give you my “top 10 micro-habits” to focus on in 2025 to really move the needle on your body goals!

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